Last year, there was a fairly large campaign to address those suffering discrimination for sexual orientation. In the wake of multiple tragic events, Dan Savage birthed the “It Gets Better” campaign, and many celebrities, sports teams, and companies followed with contributions.
Maybe it’s just this librarian, but reading these expanded versions, a little more thought out than just an on-the-spot YouTube video, have a little more impact when understanding what someone might have to go through, and the impact hurtful actions have on someone’s life. It also shows that whatever obstacles one must push through, the light at the end is worth getting to.
Today’s title is “You’ve Changed” : Sex Reassignment and Personal Identity, edited by Laurie Shrage. This collection of essays should be of interest for those involved in queer studies, gender studies, sexuality studies, or perhaps anyone who still has questions about why people proceed with this transition.
But if I may, I’d like to share a quick story with you. One of the best sports writers to ever live was Christine Daniels. On my birthday in 2009 (which happened to be the day after Thanksgiving), Christine Daniels took her own life after existing for 2 years. How is that possible? Christine Daniels was born Mike Penner.
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After living as a male for 49 years, Christine finally went through the procedures to become the woman she had felt she always was.
In this incredibly moving eulogy Rick Reilly (of all people, right?) wrote in ESPN The Magazine, Reilly says he received a text message from her after her transition announcement in the LA Times (available here), saying “I’m finally glad […] you got to meet the real me.”
Reilly concludes his post with this:
I don’t know why he did it. Nobody knows. Maybe being Christine caused others too much pain. Maybe being Mike caused him too much. “Maybe trying and failing to be Christine Daniels,” says Kahrl, “killed Mike Penner.”
I’ll miss them both.
If you read Reilly’s article or have any interest in the topic of gender transitioning or want to understand why someone would or what they must have been going through before and during the change, I recommend “You’ve Changed”.
The governing qualities of the law – and concepts like ‘best interest of the child’ – become jumbled from traditional viewpoints when there are non-traditional families involved. If it is best for the kids to go with Mom in a divorce, what happens when there are two? Or none? And in some cases, that means that the court approved an adoption into that family, meaning that nontraditional legal standpoints had been challenged.
There have been quite a few cases used to define and redefine family law as families continue evolving in appearance, and while those countless court cases are spread across a number of databases, Courting Change: Queer Parents, Judges, and the Transformation of American Family Law by Kimberly D. Richman collects interviews with families, lawyers, judges, and other legal minds and non-traditional family experts to assemble a collected view of the issues in equality from household to household. An excellent source for students pursuing careers in law, people with an interest in LGBT issues and studies, or anyone interested in the changing face of the American family.
My Sophomore year of college, I had a roommate who dropped out because he played Madden 2002 all day (this was new at the time.) I went away for the weekend, came back, and had already been given a new roommate. As I walked in, he looked at me nervously and said “Hello I’m Ryan have you checked your e-mail you should,” just like that, no pause. “Um.. Alright.”
This is an excerpt from that e-mail, which I will never delete.
Hi, I’m being moved into your room this weekend (Saturday
morning around noon I’ll be bringing my stuff by van…)
I thought I’d e-mail you and let you know a few things about
me and some of the stuff I have which I can bring with.
[…]
I enjoy lots of different things, I like movies, my favorites
include Dancer In The Dark, The Crow, Interview With The
Vampire, Lord of the Rings, Indochine (a French film), and
many others. I also enjoy music, and my tastes range greatly
but usually include everything except extremely hard rap and
twangy country. I also like playing on my computer and
hanging out with friends.
[…]
Another important thing to tell you is that I am a
homosexual. If you have any concerns about this, please let
me know, I will not be offended if you just ask me straight
out.
I look forward to living in Garner [our dorm’s name] and to being your
roommate… please let me know about what stuff I should move-
in with.
Now, what I didn’t know at the time was that Ryan was chased out of his old dorm because someone found out that he was gay (the guilty party was expelled). What Ryan didn’t know is that I’ve had extended family members who have been out since before I understood the concept of sexual orientation.
But that’s a pressure I won’t understand, and a persecution many have to face. And if I support my friends and family, I should probably learn more about how one goes about approaching an issue of equality. So when I see a book called The Lesbian and Gay Movement: Assimilation or Liberation? by Craig A. Rimmerman, I imagine it is time for a self-education. This takes on the different movements and issues as a collective, trying to discuss two different viewpoints: Is being accepted part of assimilating oneself into the mainstream, or is it to liberate their rights from oppression? Ideally, the end goal is to make issues a non-issue in society, but the angle one uses when getting their point across is of great inerest and debate.
The book focuses on the “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” policy and the military ban of “outed” homosexuals, the AIDs epidemic, and same-sex marriage. It is a book with fully cited sources, and unlike many works about Gay Rights, focuses more on opposing camps of Gay Rights advocates than it does of a pro- or anti- rights stance. I’m not saying you’ll get all the answers, but maybe you’ll get a better shot at the different questions.
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